Schools’ First Term: A Nightmare for Parents – Salihu Tanko Yakasai

(By Salihu Tanko Yakasai)

Whenever I see single guys getting all excited when they are about to get married, I just shake my head and pity the poor souls, if only they know what they are getting into! A lot of young people go into marriage not aware of the enormous responsibilities that comes with it. All they see is the “enjoyment” part of being married. They put all their energy and focus on choosing the wedding gown, venue for the dinner, the theme, which band will play, where they will have their honeymoon, you name it! Not knowing that from the moment you give birth to your first child, then that’s when reality sinks in.

After a very long break, schools have finally reopened in Kano State and across the federation. Though I am excited that my kids will go back to class and continue to build a brighter future for themselves, but as a father, one of the things I fear the most is FIRST TERM!

FIRST TERM is always the hardest for most parents. Apart from tuition fees (which is usually high if you want your kids to attend a good school) you have to buy books, uniform (2 sets minimum) and other fees. Not to mention your own preparations at home: that is indomie, biscuits, juices, shoes, school bag and lunch box, (the kids usually prefer branded bags and lunch boxes of cartoon characters which is usually more expensive) singlets and socks, the list goes on and on depending on what you can afford! For me that have two kids, multiply that times 2! *wipes sweat*. Most of the schools these days give the kids the bank tellers for next term when you go for your kid’s results for the previous term. I usually keep mine on my bedside drawer as a constant reminder to work harder and save more so I can confront the “monster”, head-on. For an average income earner, its a lot of money to pay at once, and though some parents plan ahead of time, its still not easy for many to cough out so much money in order to pay for all these.

Whenever I see single guys getting all excited when they are about to get married, I just shake my head and pity the poor souls, if only they know what they are getting into! A lot of young people go into marriage not aware of the enormous responsibilities that comes with it. All they see is the “enjoyment” part of being married. They put all their energy and focus on choosing the wedding gown, venue for the dinner, the theme, which band will play, where they will have their honeymoon, you name it! Not knowing that from the moment you give birth to your first child, then that’s when reality sinks in. That’s the moment your responsibilities will start mounting. You gradually start with baby food, diapers, clothes, toys and hospital bills. Then you graduate to school fees, helping them with homework, ensuring they are well mannered, and any other thing that will make them the best of men/women in the society. (Add that to rent and other utility bills). All these, you learn on the job. There is no manual to guide you step by step on how to go about it, sometimes parent’s advices and books help, but in most cases, you learn on the job because each child is unique and different. What works for Funke will not work for Fatima.

I’m not writing all these to scare young men from getting married, on the contrary. I’m giving you a heads up, to prepare your minds on what it actually means to be a husband/father. Its not a child’s play, it requires a lot from you, physically, emotionally and financially.

Apart from these, being a father is the best experience in life. No matter the stress you go through, no matter the challenges and the ups and downs, one smile from your son or daughter, will make you forget all that, and gladdens your heart. The joy of seeing your kids cannot be expressed in words, you have to live it, to feel it. While the monster FIRST TERM, will continue to terrorize us, the smile on our children’s faces will give us the courage to keep striving for the best, and The Good Lord will continue to make it easier on us so we may succeed, Amen!

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Source: Abusidiqu

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